Welcome to Cross Dresser's Wives Forum

An forum for empowering women with cross dressing partners.

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Cross Dressers Wives Mission is to provide a safe environment to anonymously share our experiences in an effort to learn from each other without any fear of being judged, embarrassed or humiliated. CrossDressersWives.com is a support site designed to address the needs of all women who are (or were) involved in an intimate relationship with a cross dresser. Cross Dressers Wives is a tax deductable 501 (c) (3) not for profit organization (NPO).

Together, we can raise awareness amongst ourselves and throughout society about what our lives are like as cross dresser’s wives (the term “wives” will be used to include all partners of cross dressing men).

You may be feeling shock, anger, pain, grief, confusion, embarrassment, humiliation, shame or betrayal. You may be comfortable and happy to participate in your partner’s expression of his “feminine” side.  While we have compassion for all parties, this site is solely designed to support cross dressers’ wives who, past or present, are struggling with this issue.

If you are looking for a network of women who actively assist, support, and are comfortable with their partners’ life long condition and needs, please visit our resource page for relevent links.

We do not advocate non-support of partners – we seek to validate women who are dealing with the multi-faceted complexities of cross dressing and help them understand what’s going on. We call for the accountability of cross dressing partners to tell the truth BEFORE entering a relationship. Some may ask, “What’s the harm of not disclosing?” In the words of Dr. Robin L. Smith, Lies at the Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages, “the harm is in the lie” (p. 119).

Many women feel a gigantic sense of betrayal when the cross dresser discloses his condition during their marriage or partnership.  Some blame themselves. Many of us are living with this secret and frequently tell no one for fear of being judged or embarrassed by our partner’s condition.

It is time for us to come out of “our closets!”

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You have given me a lifeline with this website and forum.  I’ve been able to post my questions and received compassionate and really helpful responses!  THANK YOU!


In Recovery

What can I say that really expresses how deep this feels. Thank you for creating a place to get away from the madness, ask questions, and just feel supported!  You are a lifeline Dee.


So Thankful

Without this forum to vent and scream and cry with other women who have been through this, I would have cracked up.  My CD experience nearly killed me and now I’m here to help others through.  Thanks Dee.


Starting New

My head was exploding when I first found but thankfully I was referred to you Dee and this website and forum has given me so much advice.  I know I’ll get through this.  Luv ya sister!


EX wife of a CD